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When They Say “I Don’t Deserve It”: Understanding Self-Blame in Young Adults

When They Say “I Don’t Deserve It”: Understanding Self-Blame in Young Adultsby: Sami WardPublished on: 16/02/2026

When young adults say they don’t deserve food, care or kindness, it’s often rooted in shame and trauma. A guide for parents navigating self-blame and self-neglect.

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When They Say “I Don’t Deserve It”: Understanding Self-Blame in Young Adults